I have not had my best teaching year this year. In fact, I have felt more burned out and unsuccessful than ever. Additionally, I have let my stress level and frustration escalate and I often feel emotionally out of control. A concerned coworker recommended I see a doctor - but I know myself well enough to consider some other changes first. As teachers, we all get stressed. If you're getting over-stressed, feel free to join me as I work through my issues and try to improve the quality of my life (and my teaching).
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Tomorrow, I go back to work with kids and I want to be ready. To get there, I certainly need to check my plans and be ready to go in that way, but I also want to be emotionally ready for the week and day so I googled some blogs on creating a balanced life. The following one caught my attention and I have taking the nine steps and written my own thoughts.
by Jasmin Tenjeloff
Jasmin's words of wisdom or my thoughts and reflections
1. Acknowledge.This step is just about taking stock. The following areas are getting way too much negative attention:
- My body/health
- My perspective of my husband's body and health
- Work - particularly my relationships with colleagues
- Work - my feelings about the curriculum I am using and it's efficacy
- Work -grading
- Work - my student teacher (who is great and I shouldn't feel negative about....but apparently I am territorial)
- Social Life - what on Earth did I do to all my close friendships...and do I have any hobbies anymore?
- My relationship with my husband
- My relationship with my students
- Science - I love the new integrated curriculum!
- My dog - yes this is a weird thing to put on the list, but walking the dog and visiting the dog park on too fairly relaxing parts of my life at the moment
- WCIRA (my local branch of the Colorado Council International Reading Association) - I am feeling good about my role in it and the literacy fair coming up (planned and orchestrated by yours truly)
- Drama Club - I have an awesome group this year
- Cross Country - it was great to be a full time coach for the first time ever; I had a much better relationship with the kids
2. Examine.This step is supposed to be looking at internal (Mind, Heart- Relationships, Body) vs external (Work, Social, Family, Fun) and seeing if the two are balanced and also seeing if your struggle with individual categories. As mentioned, social, work, and body are pretty weak and relationships outside of my marriage are weak. Also, since I am obviously stressed out, I am not doing so good on my mind piece. Balancing mind is basically are you both challenging yourself intellectually and giving yourself time to relax. I am definitely not doing a good job at relaxing my mind, lately. So, knowing this are my issue areas, what next?
3. Set Goals.
- Work: be ready for each week and accept that things aren't perfect, keep up on grading, take some time to connect with my colleagues both at and outside of work, use the messenger tool to keep in contact with my allies, aka parents (so hopefully my students don't overwhelm me with there awesome powers for incomplete and missing work)
- Body: work out (not just walking) - maybe even do the half-marathon that Mary (coworker) asked me to join in on, only one cup of coffee (with less creamer), cut out the sweets
- Invite friends over more often and more friends (whether I think we're close or not)
- I don't know what category this is: keep the house tidy (use my cleaning list)
- Fun: go hiking and biking more often (hiking at least once a month, biking at least once a week)
- Mind: cut out the stupid puzzle games on the i-pad and read a book or meditate
4. Plan Tasks.
- All grading for the week should be done by Tuesday of the next week --> grade more in class, the kids learn more from it anyways!
- 3rd period = science plans
- 7th and after school = social studies
- *Schedule times to have official chats with Kelsey (student teacher); do not feel like I have to support her at every moment
- Invite coworkers to FAC at my house at least twice this spring semester
- Participate at least once a week in the work exercise group
- Other - this is an education blog, so I am going to drop that (but just remember to take care of all of you, it makes work less stressful, too)
5. Reflect.What is the most important thing you’ve accomplished in the past? How did you stay focused toward this goal? How did you handle your fears, doubts, anxieties, worries, and negative self talk? How does it feel to know that you accomplished the goal in spite of these parts of yourself?
- Just being the best teacher I can be every day is the most important thing I accomplished. I didn't focus on the fears, doubts, anxieties, worries, or negative self talk in the past. Instead, I focused on making changes and doing my best. I used to feel really annoyed with teachers who jumped into the tornado of negativity because I knew it was a mind-set you could accept or reject, so I guess I need to focus on the successes and the power I have to do better in the future and to constantly strive. I also need to remember that I was bored before I became a teacher and that other jobs didn't challenge, excite, or fulfill me as much as teaching does!
- Always learning! Go to more conferences and learning opportunities. I have been decidedly neglectful of all the extra opportunities I could take to re-excite my teaching!
- I don't feel like grading --> Grade at least one class a day for longer items (do not expect myself to take it home, home is for relaxing), grade it with the kids!, Mondays = grade all day if needed to get things in by Tuesday; sports need this info in a timely manner for eligibility
- My plans aren't ready, oh well --> hold to my schedule, 3rd hour is always science, etc.
- Spend one day a week with Jason (the other social studies teacher) and one with Daina (the other science teacher = better relationships with my colleagues and balancing that with enough time on my own
- Kelsey is an excellent student teacher who is hell-bent on growing. Don't turn passive aggressive when frustrated, just talk to her.
7. Empower.What do you need to remember in those times? What are things you can say to that self-sabotaging part of yourself? Be kind to yourself. Balance won’t feel good if you’re cruel to yourself in creating it!
- "Remember the first and second year you - full of vim and vinegar!"
- "You're happiest when grading is not looming over you!"
- "Don't think like a 6th grader; the people around you are not out to get you and they don't dislike you."
8. Connect.Is there a person or a tactic you can use to keep yourself supported, motivated, and focused in those hard times? I highly recommend connecting and sharing your inner process with someone. Find someone who can help you challenge your inner demons, and celebrate your little accomplishments.
- I have a friend in mind - who tends to be uber-busy. If I can let her know I need her, maybe we can support each other (as we're both teachers and she is working on her masters degree right now).